What-if, Could-we and But…
It’s early release day in our school district. Again. Now I realize that one early release day each month only adds up to… uh, hold on… need both my fingers to count this out… Okay, it’s nine times, but it seems like 900 times. My child eats lunch at 10:15 on early release days. 10:15! I should send him pancakes or breakfast tacos. It’s just annoying, and we have to juggle pick-up schedules, since on these fun, fun early release days H and P get out of school at the same time. Only I can’t be in two places at once, like some of those super moms. But there is an upside: I get two extra hours with my big kid today (I’m being serious. Really. Most of the time I’m pretty fond of him.).
So. That little rant has absolutely nothing to do with today on the blog, which happens to be Wednesday: guest writer day! My guest today is Kate Fineske from On-the-Go Momma. Kate really is a super mom, but not the annoying kind. She’s the kind I admire, and I get the feeling she goes about 90-to-nothing all day, every day. But as she tells us today, sometimes you have to shut down all the distractions and let your mind wander a bit. I relate to this post completely – we play the same game at our house – and can’t wait to find out if you do, too.
Kids, kids and more kids.
Work, work and more work.
Sometimes even the weekend isn’t a good enough reprieve from all the tasks on my plate that I am supposed to complete. Occasionally I just need to give my mind a break from my on-going to-do list.
After a long day of wearing multiple hats as a mother, a wife, a college educator, a non-profit staff member and a blogger, one of my favorite ways to end my day is to just…
Grab my husband, put the iPhone, iPad, Laptop, Google Reader, Twitter feed and Facebook conversations away
Watch an episode or two of HGTV’s House Hunters International. (I know, maybe not what you were thinking I was going to say?)
My husband and I love watching HGTV’s House Hunters International because a.) they are short 30-minute episodes (and usually we are pretty spent and couldn’t fathom watching a 2-hour movie!), b.) we are complete travel addicts, and c.) the TV show allows us to dream.
And as we watch, the “what-ifs” tend to begin …
- What if we just took off and moved to Italy, the Bahama’s or China?
- What if we spent our days living a slower paced life and/or giving our children a taste of a different culture?
- What if we didn’t worry as much about deadlines, and expectations, and all the other things that often consume our days?
Wouldn’t that be nice?
Of course then “what-if” becomes “could-we”…
- Could we actually pick up and move halfway around the world with our three young children?
- Could we ever leave the stability of the home we’ve always known for a place that would be so “unknown?”
- Could we manage to make new friends for both us and our kids?
And finally, the “what-if” that turned into “could-we” eventually becomes “but …”
- Sure, we could pick-up and move BUT, we would really miss all of our family and friends.
- Yes, we could leave our home-sweet-home BUT, we would definitely be sad to leave the house that we have put so much of our own blood, sweat and tears to build and maintain.
- Of course, we could make new friends BUT, making good friends takes time. (A hot commodity in our books!)
And that is when we realize something. (Note: The same thing is realized again and again and again since we often end our night with a DVR’ed episode or two.)
We realize that it is good to dream.
And it is fun to wish.
Yet you always seem to want what you don’t have.
And also that with every decision you make there is always consequences.
Then, just about at this point – this point RIGHT HERE – is when we realize that right now it is way more fun to watch others pick-up their lives and start over then to actually do it ourselves.
And we start thinking: OK, so maybe we could do this when we retire…
:: Do you ever think in terms of what-if, could-we and but?
:: How do you differentiate between a wish, a dream and a true goal?
About the Writer
Kate is a self-procaimed busy, on-the-go, not-so-perfect, often forgetful (yet well meaning) mom of three who blogs personally at On-the-Go Momma and is also a staff member and contributor to the National Association of Mothers’ Centers’ blog, Mothers Central. You can follow her on twitter and like her on Facebook.